We can all relate to a circle, a circle of friends, a circle of teammates who are about to go to battle on a pitch or a circle with a fire in the middle where stories, magical stories are being told. We as a human species have always seen a circle as a safe place, a place where we feel we belong, and a place where we can be open and honest.
Sometimes we can be pushed out from a circle, we see it in schools with daily jealously and nastiness towards other’s. A child will be pushed out through no fault of their own but true someone else’s hurt put on them. This continues at times into adulthood, the workplace and the once hurt child will become the hurt adult who is pushing people out of their circle. It can be a very lonely place for a child and an adult when they are pushed out from a circle.
We have to see this as an opportunity to join another circle, a circle where we are valued more, a circle for growth. In a circle that’s not through to us we feel depleted, unhappy and over time a black cloud can come over us. The choice is yours to move to a new circle or to build the courage up to start one from scratch.
There is a story of a lion who for a long time tried to attack four Oxen in a field. Each time he tried to attack the Oxen formed a circle tails together and horns facing the lion they fended him off each time. One day they started quarrelling and thought they could fend for themselves outside the circle of safety. One by one they went to different parts of the field and one by one the lion killed the Oxen.
The circle of safety goes back to cave man days whereby if we are not part of a circle we could starve. Like the Oxen in the story we are stronger together as a group, tribe or circle but when we are hurtful and not nice to each other the strong link is broken and the outside forces like the lion will attack and be victorious.
As the saying goes you can tell a lot about a person with who they hang around with. If you haven’t found the circle that’s through to you keep looking, it’s there once you look a little harder.
